Do men expect women to bring just as much or more to the table in a relationship?
Relationships are hard work and they can be even more stressful especially if you’re doing all the work while the other person barely contributes. I believe in relationships, everything should be split down the middle: finances, housework, and controlling the climate of the relationship. When I say everything should be split down the middle that doesn’t mean for a $100 light bill, you have to go 50/50. Agreements can be made where you pay the light bill this month and they’ll pay it next month or you can pay the light bill and they’ll pay another bill. All I’m saying is, both of you should contribute something. Finances, bills, money or the lack there of can break up some of the strongest relationships.
One person should not bare the entire financial load and that goes for bills, credit and savings. When one person carries the financial burden of the entire household on their shoulders things can become strained. It can also make one person feel like they’re taking care of a grown child. Now we all go through hard times and sometimes the only person keeping us up is our spouse/significant other; we all have to lean on somebody sometimes. However, I’m talking about when one person works and the other person sits at home with two fully functioning legs relaxing and chilling. Now if you have someone whose joy is taking care of you, I’m not speaking to you, you should milk that cow for as long as you can. I’m speaking to those of you who are not so lucky.
Nowadays, men prefer to have a woman who will be able to hold her own without him. Most of us are no longer wanting a Mrs. Beaver instead we’re desiring a Claire Huxtable. We want a woman who can prove to us that she can handle it all and we will work harder to make sure she gets it all.
With the changing of the economy, most households require two sources of income anyways. But most of us men still prefer to be the breadwinner. We still have to feel superior in way. I’m sorry ladies but it’s a man thing. However, we do want our woman to come with her own and know how to maintain her own because if something happens that can put a strain on the finances like the us getting laid off then we need to be sure that our woman will be able to hold it down until we can get back on our feet.
Life happens, and although, us men prefer to be the main financial provider, we can never be certain if that will remain that way which is why we need to make sure we select a woman who not only knows how to be a help-meet to us but when needed can step up and take the lead.
Now, I can’t speak for all men but for most men, I know we prefer a woman who can bring something to the table besides just waiting for it to be brought home to prepare, cook, and serve.