Love is Still the Number One Commandment

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Love is Still the Number One Commandment

Sherry and Willie Smith

  Sherry and Willie Smith

 

 

 

 

 

How long have you been married?

Sherry: We’ve been married for 37 years and together for 38!

How did you meet?

Sherry:  We met a nightclub.  I thought he was someone I had met the week before and he went with it.

When did you know that he/she was the one?

Sherry: Since the night we met, I just knew that we would be together.

Willie: After we stayed together for a couple of weeks, she just always ended up being there.

What have been the pleasures of marriage?

Sherry: For me, I love the way he loves me.  It’s a pleasure to have him just reach for my hand; he lets me know in so many ways that he loves me.  After God, he is my cover and that’s a pleasure.

Willie: To know you have someone who’s there for you through the good and bad times.

What are the struggles of marriage and how do you get through them?

Sherry: The struggles would be dealing with life.  Still trying to deal with the death of my eldest daughter, my husband having stage three lung cancer, or some times not having enough money are some difficult struggles.  We get through it with much prayer, love, and encouragement.

Willie: I learned that you have to talk things over.  Learning that you don’t have all the answers because you DON’T!

What is the key to keeping a marriage?

Sherry: I can’t say that there is a key to keeping a marriage; I just know that we want to be married ‘til death.

Willie: Working together on everything.  Keep the devil out and go to church.  A family that prays together stays together.

What advice can you give other couples?

Sherry: Don’t give up so soon.  Trust in God, trust each other, and pray for each other.  Give it all you got and give each other something you can feel, not just sexually but sensual too!

Willie: No problems are as bad as they seem.  Love and be there for each other.

 

Craig and Valerie Beverly

Craig and Valerie Beverly

 

 

 

 

 

How long have you been married?

Valerie: We have been married for 11 years.

How did you meet?

Valerie: We were high school enemies. Yes…enemies!  I hated his guts!  Apparently God had different plans for us.

When did you know that he/she was the one?

Craig: We realized that we were soul mates after she had oral surgery for her wisdom teeth.  She had all four teeth pulled at one time.  This was at the very beginning of our courting days.  I had to nurse her back to good health, as well as, care for her teenage child’s health and welfare.  My mom raised me to be self-sustaining and take care of all my own needs.  She always told me not to depend on women to do domesticated things for me (i.e. cooking, cleaning, sewing, paying bills and overall managing my household). I have mastered all of these tasks and performed them well for my now “wife for life”.  Henceforth, she has more time to go shopping now.

What have been the pleasures of marriage?

Valerie: The greatest pleasure of marriage has been the friendship bond we have established.  We joke and play a lot with one another.  However, we both know when it’s time to get serious.  The thought of having that constant companionship available whenever you need him or her is an awesome feeling.  There is nothing we wouldn’t do to protect each other’s happiness.

 What are the struggles and how do you get through them?

Craig: The greatest struggle was communication.  My wife is very candid and speaks her mind.  Most men are not accustomed to this.  Some men feel as though a woman should be seen and not heard.  This is way off base and should be addressed immediately.  Through prayer and being honest with one another, we established a shared line of communication.  We never lie down and wake up with the same issue looming.  Once it’s said, then it’s done.  We move on!

What is the key to keeping a marriage?

Craig: The ultimate key is Christ.  Jesus has to be Lord and come first.  Your faith is what guides you.  If you believe in anything, believe in Christ first. Then all the other things shall be added unto you!

 What advice can you give other couples?

Craig: Husbands become great listeners.  You don’t have to win every argument!  Wives know your role and the value it adds to your marriage!  It’s okay to submit and follow, even when you can’t see where he’s leading.  The steps of a righteous man are ordered by God.  There should be no worries of being lead astray if you are walking by faith.  Here is something my wife and I did around the third year of our marriage.  We played a game together, called “Check Mate”.  It’s simple. We each picked 10 questions about ourselves that we thought each of us should have known about one another, such as what was our favorite color, etc., etc.  (Don’t make it difficult!  KISS (Keep It Simple Saints)).  We answered each question honestly and exchanged them then we reviewed them together. I think it’s a good game many couples should play because you find out if you really know your partner.  If neither of you can answer 50% of these questions correctly about your “soul mate”, well, all I can say in the words of a famous songwriter “If You Don’t Know Me By Now….You Will Never!”  Finally, keep prayer for one another first and foremost. The way you start your day, will impact how it will end.  Take care and be a blessing to one another. CGM

 

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