1st Lady of The Fellowship of Love Church
City Girl Magazine caught up with 1st lady, Kandice Ewing, at the Sugarland Town Center, in the middle of her photo shoot. She greeted me with a hug and a warm smile as if we were old friends. As we took a seat nearby, we began to talk about her role as 1st lady and what that means to her, her message, and the upcoming natural hair show that she has been working so diligently in putting together.
There are so many perceptions and stereotypes that come along with being a 1st lady, were you apprehensive about taking on that role?
I didn’t really grow up in church, so I didn’t know what it meant at all to be a first lady. I don’t think I even heard the term as far as it relating to a pastor’s wife until I started dating my husband and understanding what it meant. The only time I’ve heard the term, first lady, was when it was used for the women married to the president. I started getting serious about Christ and church at the age of 27, 28. But I had no idea what I was stepping into once I accepted the role of first lady.
Now that you have accepted this role, what would you say is your ministry and passion?
My number one passion is prayer; I believe in the power of prayer. I believe that it does a lot of change in our hearts and our situations. Prayer is something that I’m very passionate about. I’m also passionate about encouraging people to be themselves. A lot of times people come to church and they think that you have to be a certain way. When someone sees me they will not know that I am the first lady by my appearance because I’m not in the typical church attire and I speak with the current lingo of today. I like that people come to our church and don’t know who the first lady is because I like to fellowship and be sisterly. I like being relatable to people and letting them know that you can be fly, modest, and love God.
That leads to my next question and you touched on it a little bit already, but do you feel like you have to put on a facade or be someone other than yourself?
I think that as a first lady you do have an expectation to live up to. I know that are just some things I am not going to wear, because I do have women looking at me both younger and older. I do think there is an aspect to it that you do have to live. There’s a certain portion of your life for other people to see, because you are living for Christ now; you’re not living for yourself. So I do get that, I understand that, and I do respect it. But at the same time there has to be your own character involved in it. God doesn’t deliver us from our character, from the original design he gave us. As long as we are asking Him the right questions to help us grow more spiritually like, “What is it you want me to do?” Finding your place is the key.
What type of message do you strive to represent as both a woman and a woman of God?
Kindness, I want people to know that I’m kind. I like to converse with people. I think the sisterhood, especially with African American women, where we don’t speak or embrace each other. We talk a good game, but we’re really not doing that. I want people to know that I’m an encourager and try to help people as much as I can. I try my hardest to show through my actions. A lot of times you never have to open your mouth. When you greet someone with a hug, hold the door open, or even pay for someone’s Starbucks behind you. There is always an opportunity to show that kindness and to show your personality. That’s what I want people to leave with after they have met me, because all of those things are characteristics of Christ. Christ is not mean-spirited, bitter, angry, or envious. We should all try to maintain friendliness, kindness, and compassion towards others. This is being Christ-like.
I do know that you are doing a natural hair show, so tell us a little more about that?
The natural hair show is going to be May 11th at our church, The Fellowship of Love Church, from 11am to 3pm. I decided to do it because after I went natural, a lot of ladies in the church started going natural. And I actually joke with people when they come and visit us if they’re not natural. (And please do not think I’m saying they have to be natural to come to our church). But I’m serious, it’s almost like a cult, people could think do they have to be natural in order to become a member? But to get back on the hair show, we have had many conversations about it and it’s been on my heart for a couple years to do the show, but for whatever reason fear took over me and I doubted that I would be able to pull it off. However, through prayer and reaching out to people through social media for donations, it has just been unbelievable. All of the donations, the swag bags, and the giveaways all came through social media. I have never met these women in my life. It’s been so exciting and overwhelming that it’s coming together. We are going to have a natural runway hair show, featuring little girls from ages 5 to 16, we are also having spoken word, a couple how-to workshops, and we’re offering prayer. It’s not going to be a church service by any means, but we do realize that while the hair show is going on, while this interview is going on, people are going through. Hurt is all around us, even now, the Boston situation and West Texas, all of these things are happening, so we have to offer prayer. We’ll have door prizes and grand giveaways, as well as allow people to connect with one another. There will be vendors there, light refreshments, lots of pictures, and lots of fun.
What else could we look forward to seeing there?
There will be different hair styles, especially looks for the corporate world, because a lot of ladies have natural hair and they are not sure how to wear their hair on an interview or to work. The How to Workshops (TWA’s) will focus on how to maintain and take care of your natural hair. There will also vendors showcasing their hair care products, like if someone is experiencing hair thinning, alopecia. These products might be able to help them. We will be giving tips on what we should be eating, putting in our hair, and not be putting in our hair. Somebody is actually going to do a Big Chop at the show too. So it’s going to be an all-around fun event. I think that a lot of times people think that if you are in church, serious about God and church, that you are old fashion, out of date and don’t know what’s going on. And that’s just not the case. There are a lot of fun, creative, intelligent, resourceful women who love God, who are in church, but they are not on YouTube searching for the assistance needed to help them with styling and treating their hair. This event is the perfect place for them to come and get it all! They can ask questions and meet other women who might be going through the same hair issues. Or there might be some women there who are thinking about going natural and hopefully we can provide some type of answers for them.
What is your Favorite Go To Fashion trend?
I always enjoy blazers, jackets. I love the emerald green/ Kelly Green color, neutral shoes, and the floral pants with the mix of patterns like the bold stripes
The Fellowship of Love Church
10223 Clodine Rd
Richmond, TX 77407